Question? How come if a woman dates a young man they are called “Cougar” and usually makes it sound wrong but when a man dates a young woman it’s ok or rarely classified as sugar daddy?
At first when women “non-celebrity” dated/married a young man they were termed cradle robbers? But no body minded as much when older man married a young woman. To me it seems women have and are still being judged more harshly than their male counterparts. I myself am guilty in a small way to feeling some weirdness dating a young man but i feel it’s ok for me to date an older guy. I am in no way against dating someone younger than yourself I think it depends on the person. For me I feel like anyone younger than me can’t be viewed anything more than my brother, don’t get me wrong am not saying younger men are less better than older men but its my preferences and my opinion.
My opinion may have been influenced more by the fact that every guy I dated who was my age or a little older always behaved childishly. It’s well known that in most cases women develop faster “in maturity” than men that’s just how it is and having witnessed that myself over the years I just felt going out with someone younger than me was a no no. Again don’t misquote me their are men out there who have developed either faster or same as their female counterparts but their are a few.
Now I have blabbed on about “maturity” now let me explain this, a mature minded man with his senses in tact will always think of the bigger picture not just here and now and neglect the future. He will be putting others before himself, commitment does not scare him he embraces it. He cherishes what he has doesn’t always trade it up for a new joy every time his bored instead he works at it and if cant work he discusses it and bids his farewell. Maybe I am thinking of a fictional character here but I would like to think that, that kind of men have described are out there and my man is one of them. To the ladies I will say this don’t just choose the one with the money choose that one whose working for it who has a dream, ambition and can support himself, you and if ever happens your kids too. These days it’s not easy and am not saying compromise to the point of dying no just don’t overlook them all because you have certain desires. If he ticks 6/10 take him and work together on the other 4.
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***First published on July 10, 2013 @ PBA***
Long distance relationships, how do people make them work? Well I personally think it takes commitment on both sides in equal measure to make it work, I think if both parties are compromising equally and always listen and look out for one another then it can and will work. Apart from these two people loving each other they have to trust each other too, because a relationship without trust is more often than none compared to a body without the head. I will be honest and say this out right if you don’t trust your partner then mate start looking for a new partner or do something about it to fix that and am not talking about quick fix am talking about COMMUNICATION AND HONEST to one another. I myself have been in a long distance relationship before and I guess am experiencing that now but our distance is just 2 hours by car and 3 hours give or take by train, so we are within reach of each other. I feel for people who have a distance of a continent by that I mean you here (UK) and your partner is in USA, AUSTRALIA, ASIA or AFRICA or even vice versa. How do you go about’s making it work? It all comes back to what have mentioned above, TRUST accompanied by LOVE, COMMUNICATION, HONEST and FRIENDSHIP. Many people forget the friendship part just because you in a relationship does not mean you cant be friends hell you already friends but I mean doing thinks you would do with your friends normally if they were abroad like sending messages or you see something that reminds you of them and you just post an e-mail or text and just tell them what you’ve seen or done that reminds you of them. We all want to know that the people who are far away miss you as crazily as you miss them because thinking that they don’t remember you of they have completely forgotten you well that just drives paranoia which is never good for anyone because that usually leads to rushed decisions that you usually end up regretting later.
If you are in a long distance relationship, what have you done to make sure that that relationship does not or has not failed? How do you go about living your life without that person you love being around or being able to contact you as much as you would like?
People who are in the ARMY, how do you copes? How do you do it? Have read stories what people who’ve gone to war and there loved ones waited for them, in this context loved one are referring to BF/GF/Fiance etc.
Let me know how you’ve done it and how you inspire other people to go on because I know first hand its not easy.
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