Week 14: Relationship Advice ~ Trust

It’s easier said than done but a relationship without trust is no relationship at all. I have learned first hand in past relationships that without trust you have nothing, your love will not last without trust because trust is the foundation and without a solid foundation your building will fall. You may ask why will it fall? Let’s take this scenario:

“You find out that your partner had been cheating on you doesn’t matter how long for but it has happened, most of us will often enough go for the self blame. What did I do or not do to make my partner cheat on me? I do not advocate cheating and I don’t care your reasoning cheating is cheating plain and simple. Just because your partner don’t give you what you want or need don’t mean you get a free pass at cheating NO you DONT if your not happy and after talking about it nothing happens it’s time to go so that once you free you can do what ever when ever. Now back to our scenario, after you forgive your partner and start feeling or know for a fact that you will never trust them again that’s the time when the end or shall I say agony starts because:

1. Anytime they go out you start to imagine the worst
2. Anytime they talking to a friend on the phone you think something else
3. Every time they are late coming home or meeting up at agreed time you think something else

This is not and shall never be healthy, some of you might be saying I wouldn’t even waste time thinking those things about my cheating partner but what you forgetting is you not thinking about them is also the end.

I will not claim to be an expert or even tell you how you should deal with it but I will share with you how I dealt with it in past relationships. Ladies that song by P!NK ~ blow me one last kiss! that speaks volume and I did it before pink sung it also Ceelo Green’s cry baby ha!.I did the

1. I cried and died a little inside
2. I let go, I really had enough
3. I started to live my life, it’s too short wasting on sh*t heads
4. I brought myself back into the dating world, I looked after and still do look after my happiness myself
5. I respect me first

So to end this unwarranted relationship advice post I wanted to say to you my readers, your priority should be number 1 = YOU, you are in charge of your own happiness. Until next time my lovelies, where ever you are happy day/night and blessings to God.

  • It can definitely make it or break it

  • Trust to me is the most important part to a relationship, it can make it or break it.

  • Thank you for reading it

  • Absolutely its not only those we romantically involved with but everyone else too

  • Trusting yourself opens up revenues for others and knowing your self work is very important

  • We could all do with some self checking I agree

  • 100% correct

  • Absolutely important

  • Could not have phrased it better myself, knowing one's worth can be a hard task but once you know its the best feeling ever

  • Without communication any relationship will fall, its important to communicate and trust one another and both parties have to be willing

  • Without trust there is no relationship! xx

  • Trusting yourself and your intuition is key. Sometimes we all need a gut check once in awhile 🙂

  • Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Without that, nothing can result in positive results in a relationship. But it is also true that you have to be positive about yourself first and foremost.

  • Love this – trust is so important in any relationship. Romantic, or not.

  • Thank you for such an honest post!

  • Trust and communication, those are the two top ones to me. 🙂

  • It's all about picking yourself up, knowing you worth, and finding an open heart again. xoxo

  • joy

    Trust is everything. It's so, so important in any relationship, not just the romantic variety.

  • Thank you and yes to last trust but other factors are needed

  • It's when your partner makes you lose the 'benefit of the doubt' clause that makes things harder.

  • Absolutely, it is definitely earned and not automatic

  • Thank you and yes it is

  • I do not think you can or even advocate it

  • I think that is my greatest fear losing that trust for someone even though they are not your partner

  • If both parties are not willing to overlook the past or can't even get past it there is no point in trying. Time out is needed maybe the future holds something different for both

  • Thank you

  • Every r/ship has it's ups and downs but it's the willingness to work for it and treasure it that counts

  • Thank you Stacy, it's definitely painful

  • I sadly can imagine the pain but it takes two to tango

  • Absolutely, it's important in all r/ships in life, thanks for your perspective

  • No amount of love can save a r/ship if Trust and honesty are not present

  • I think it's important to look after #1

  • I have learned over the years to trust my gut even when it doesn't make sense

  • Thank you Kimberly

  • Great post. Trust is something you absolutely need for a relationship to last.

  • Trust is so important. But if a partner leaves you a reason to doubt them sometimes it's impossible to get that trust back! Luckily I trust my partner with everything!

    Katie <3

  • It's so true! I don't know how I could ever be in a relationship without trust.

  • Trust is everything in a relationship! Great post!

  • Trust in any relationship is very vital. Not just for romantic relationships but also for friendship and even in family relationship. And as they say trust is earned and not automatically given…

  • Great post! Trust is so important. Someone I care about was cheated on a few times by her husband and I can never trust him now, I can only imagine how I'd be if my husband did that.

  • Great advice thanks for your insight! Trust is SO important!

  • Agreed. I'm coming from a past marriage where trust was completely broken in a scenario not unlike what you wrote about. I tried to get back to a healthy relationship but it was impossible. Trust is priceless.

  • Trust is SO important. As is loving and taking care of yourself. Thanks for sharing!

  • Trust and honesty are key, for all relationships.

  • Trust is HUGE! Not just in inmate relationships but in friendships, family basically every relationship. It's so important to trust the people you love and trust that they have trust in you as well <3

  • "A relationship without trust is no relationship at all"–SO TRUE! I've been lucky to have some amazing partners–all of whom I trusted completely during our relationships–so I can't imagine the pain that would occur when a partner cheats. Terrible!

  • It is a painful experience and you are so completely right. Great insight.

  • totally agree. i am really lucky to be in an amazing relationship with my hubby, but i certainly had up & down days in earlier relationships haha! =)

  • Trust is a huge thing – and always listen to your gut. It is almost always right.

  • Lovely blog post. I totally agree with you. Trust is very very important!

  • Thanks Neil

  • Nice blog post, very unique and you can get lots of information that is very helpful. thank you for sharing your blog.

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  • Thank you for that high heels and tutus.

  • Highheels & Tutus

    Totally agree that you need to watch out for yourself first. I think that with a lot of things, you will find a true partner for yourself if you focus on yourself and being who you want to be. Thanks for sharing
    xx, High heels and Tutus